Tuesday, July 24, 2007

Love's Unfinished Business - Venus Retrograde 2007

VENUS IN VIRGO RETROGRADE

Time to Complete Love's Unfinished Business


Now that the Sun has entered Leo we are nearing the month of August and some significant planetary movements.

First up we have sensual Venus stationing retrograde, something it only does once every 18 months. Venus will do this on July 27, 2007 at 3° Virgo (or more precisely, 2° Virgo 56'), and this retrograde period will last until September 8, 2007, By then the planet of love and sensuality stations direct at 16° Leo 36'. That forward motion then continues until October 11, when she returns to 3 °the 3rd degree of Virgo, where she first made her station (this is called the "Shadow Period"). To recap, that is, Venus is retrograde July 27-September 8.

This Venus in Virgo transit will be a challenging one because it will makes demands on you about the men and women you have been in relationship with, about love. The demands are coming from Saturn which will also be making a stand by moving from Leo into Virgo. (More about Saturn in Virgo is coming soon!). This movement of Venus began at the beginning of July and will extend into the middle of October. (then Virgo's ruler, Mercury is in retrograde again).

How will this affect you? With Venus going retrograde, August, September and half of October will be time for a review of your love life and relationships in general. Virgo demands honesty, practicalityand uprightness in love. The past is important. Who do you REALLY love? Is there a woman or man in your past who you have run away from, rejected or refused to commit to because of fear and dishonest "reasons"? Now is the time when you must face the music. With the influence of Saturn, it is decision-making time - and making the choice for that person may well be the "right" choice and the best choice. Are you in a "relationship" shaped by and grounded in a foundation of secrecy, guilt, control, sexual obsession or some other fragile reason? Making a choice to commit to that person will bring you pain that will be long and memorable and not to your liking in any way until you, again, making things "right".

One example: At hte center is a Virgo male who is a closet bisexual and transvestite who wears women's clothing and wants to be the dominated submissive in BDSM sex play. He connects online with a dominatrix. This woman's last such relationship ended when the man, her "slave" finally would not comply with her persistent demands for marriage and financial support. She is still looking to get married, hopefully toi a man who wants to take the submissive role. They have cybersex for a few months then she travels to his country to live with him. They live out their fantasies in front of a webcam and in BDSM clubs for an online BDSM community in what is called a TPE 24/7 (Total Power Exchange). They have also agreed to do this under a year long Mistress/slave contract. Now months into it. they argue frequently about finances and struggle over who will be in control. She tells her BDSM chatroom friends that it is th greatest relationship in teh world; he knows he will never marry her but he is staying silent to avoid conflict for the remainder of the contract. He also hides their relationship and his sexual orientation from his family and friends. So, what happens to such a relationship under under Venus retrograde (and Saturn in Virgo)? Does this relationship have any real foundation for a lasting relationship of decades? Can it stand the test of honesty, openness and dealing with everyday life like children, extended family and building a life together? Or is it really only a guilt-ridden and secret relationship hidden from everyone? Virgos do not really get away with making the wrong choices, LOL. They suffer for it, unlike some other signs which bounce back better.

If you have Sun, Moon, Venus, Saturn or Ascendant in Virgo this will be an especially personal transit. For Virgos in general this is a part of a marriage and commitment transit. If you have Sun or Venus in Virgo, do not be surprised if the best and "right" decision of commitment that brings life happiness involves another Virgo! Of course it may not be. Do not be surprised if both or one of you is well past the "normal" marriage age. All good things come in time and later in life is Virgo's time. Why? Two things: 1) Virgo is said to be truly the only sign that another Virgo can marry and it definitely works out well and 2) Virgo women and men are THE most self-contained people in the world and tend to marry later in life - 30s and 40s.

I will go deeper into Saturn in Virgo in another article, but know that Saturn's arrival into Virgo signifies the start of many marriage, divorces and pregnancies/births by Virgos between September 2007 and June 2010.

Venus in Virgo retrograde will call upon us to go back and take care of unfinished love business. *ouch* Typically in retrogrades we are forced to deal with deep feelings that have their origins in past events. It is an opportunity to gain insight into your style of relating, whether sexually, creatively, or financially. The deep feeling will be activated internally but can be difficult to express to ourselves or others while Venus is retrograde. When the retrograde is done (early September in this case) we can give voice to what is uncovered.

Is there or has there been a Virgo in your life that you were involved with at some point? Your thoughts will wander back to that person to reconsider. After everything is weighed a solid and honest committed relationship can result that will involve love, security, service, caring, friendship and a lasting partnership.

Have you been feeling there is something missing in your life and you want the partnership that a marriage brings? Then it is time to put aside the obfuscations and lies you have used to keep the two of you apart (or for you to face that Virgo who has been doing the same thing) and get married.

When Virgos are presented with the truth, no matter how "deep, dark and ugly", it can open a whole new world of light - like the kind sparkle in a Virgin's eyes.

Virgo will take care of you and you will never be wanting as Virgo loves to serve. That is the general nature of a commitment made under Saturn in Virgo - a commitment made to and with a person who embodies the Virgoan calling of service

As director Spike Lee said....it is time to DO THE RIGHT THING.

So review and undo the false relationships that have no solid foundation for a future. Analyze the facts, take into consideration the truth about yourself and the other person. Speak openly and honestly and let love into the space between you. Make a good choice for love and stick to it. It may mean reaching back and calling, visiting or writing that old girlfriend, it may mean you meet a new man in October 2007 who embodies Virgoan characteristics and marry him, and hey, it is time!


BASIC BACKGROUND

A little insight on Virgo and Venus:

Virgo is the planet whose archetypes are The Analyzer, The Sacred Prostitute (Vestal Virgin), The Servant, The Harvest Mother, The Nurse. This is a feminine sign and men with Sun in Virgo have something about them that is quietly graceful and feminine. It could be in, for example, the gliding walk of model-turned-actor Virgoan Sean Connery, or the charmingly intelligent looks of Virgoans Mark Harmon and Richard Gere. Virgo is also sexy too - besides those three men, think Virgoans Sophia Loren and Beyonce Knowles!

Venus reveals our values. The Goddess of Love rules emotions and feelings, fashion, sense of humor, anything artistic and aesthetic, fashion, the pursuit of pleasure, forms of desire such as money/wealth, social attitudes, love, marriage,romance and commitment, Venus symbolizes female relationships and social interactions at every level.

Friday, July 13, 2007

Service is Love - Venus in Virgo (July 14, 2007)

Venus in Virgo

Service is Love

Get your love in order! We are blessed with Venus in Virgo from July 14 through August 8. In communion with the New Moon in Cancer, this ingress of Venus into Virgo lends us full support in taking care of the details of love. Love is not always dreaming and floating on air. It is doing the “little things” for each other. It is a time when we find ourselves doing practical things to help our partners. We make ourselves more available to our lovers than at other times. For those in a bad relationship it is a time of being able to look at our relationships with the eyes of practicality and make sometimes tough decisions to end things or to note where we can make improvements.

Let’s take a moment to say something else about Virgo. The superficial word about Virgo is that it is all about milquetoast men and frigid women who are life-long bachelors, sexual virgins or inexperienced with sex, prudish, think sex is disgusting, shy, guilt-ridden, and who spend their lives as be-spectacled librarians and accountants. But Virgo is an Earth sign and that means Virgos are not just analytical (noticing the little things), practical and concerned about hygiene in a relationship; it means Virgos are sensual people who know how to make the earth quake! They are not necessarily virgins and can be quite sexually free, merging with a partner with some delight. Reserved? Once you have proven yourself to be a trustworthy and caring person, analytical and observant Virgo lets the wall down and is willing to do what it takes to make a partner happy. Service is an excellent expression of love.

As the Sun transits into Leo a few days into this Venus transit, some of the expressions of love could be quite elaborate and showy. During this Venus in Virgo cycle it would be easy to feel guilty about enjoying love and other pleasures too much, but indulge yourself anyway. Notice how people respond to your attempts to make them happy and notice how you respond in kind. Do not, however, worry yourself to death over things not being perfectly expressed. Stay in the moment and enjoy it.

New Moon in Cancer - July 14, 2007

We have a New Moon in Cancer on Saturday, July 14th, 2007, at 8:04 AM EDT/2:04 PM CET. This occurs at 21 degrees and 41 minutes of Cancer. It will significantly affect people born with Sun, Moon, or Ascendant between 20 to 24 degrees in Cancer, Capricorn, Aries and Libra.

This is a good time to make new beginnings, as it is with every New Moon; this one is good for new beginnings in the area of personal goals that symbolize the nature of Cancer the Crab. This includes family and home, nurturing, improving our relationships with our parents but mothers in particular, realizing what makes us feel insecure or secure. We must focus on whether our fears are rational or irrational and which is the best thing to do to face the world and our relationship with true courage, not false bravado where we jab at others and run back to hide in a shell we build around ourselves. We also must guard against being crabby and picking at the ones who love us, trying to keep them away from our true hearts (or prevent them from uncovering the things we have been dishonest about in relationship to that person!) We must focus on honesty and that means telling the truth in al ways (because hiding facts is lying through omission and is just as bad as outright lying. We must be honest with ourselves and with others. It will give us the intimacy and security we desire because we never need fear losing what we have because a lie we told or truth we hid might get exposed. .Since it is a time of new beginning it is a prime time to start a new project that can improve your family, home and general domestic life: start a scrapbook, write a story, have a special lunch with some family members etc. You will reap the rewards of this New Moon in Cancer in the month to come as this New Moon trines Uranus. The rewards could come in an unusual form, but stay open to the surprises for they can bring you good things. There is also another event helping you along with this energy, and that is Venus in Virgo, which also begins today.