Tears and Fears

Sun enters Pisces, Venus enters Aquarius

There is no shortage of celestial influence today as Mercury retrograde in Aquarius ends, the Sun enters Pisces and Venus begins its transit through Aquarius.

You computer and car will finally stop malfunctioning and giving you stress, however communication in your relationships may not become easy overnight.

This is because while Mercury retrograde’s strongest influence is done, the shadow is still there until early March AND the Sun in Pisces will increase the emotional sensitivity between you and your special someone AND Venus entering Aquarius signifies detachment and aloofness from emotion.

Let us review the strongest influence I see here, Venus in Aquarius. Independence, lots of space, freedom, individuality and separatenes -- these are what Venus in Aquarius seeks in a relationship. Situations that allow for these characteristics are the ones where relationships flourish for the native with this placement. As a transit, this can be challenging and it may feel as though your partner is leaving you -- or you may want to leave your partner.

Do you know someone who has Venus in Aquarius? There is a significant sexuality issue here. This planet-in-sign indicates that in a prior lifetime the person experienced some sort of sexual abuse or misuse, most likely forcibly locked into sexual unions against their free will. This was very traumatic. Now in this lifetime, there may still be some trauma around sexual issues (for example the person may experience rape or molestation at an early age). They may have trouble forming pleasurable sexual relationships as an adult. They may have trouble comfortably touching someone of the opposite sex (if their orientation is heterosexual) or may feel awkward and anxious about being touched, hugged or kissed. They are likely to be sexual late bloomers.

Aquarius is a sign that seeks truth, humanitarianism, independence and is very progressive in its approach to life. Yet, it is also imbued with a hidden sense of caution because it is co-ruled by Saturn. For Venus in Aquarius people there is a need to seek attention for being unique - being The Rebel. This is the polarity of Leo creeping into the Aquarius personality. Aquarius likes to shake up the mix! They like to be known for speaking existential "truths". They can also be rather voyeuristic about other's sexual and romantic lives, wanting to openly discuss the details of the other person's life because it is a "radical" approach to such an intimate issue (and because talking about sex and relationships covertly excites them by stimulating their mind)....but detaching and hiding when it comes to revealing their own private sexual and romantic details!

Warning!! A relationship with a person who has Venus in Aquarius may not feel like much of a relationship at all. There is a fear of the emotions and detachment is common. Detachment may be good (looking at things from another perspective) or bad (running from feelings and BSing intellectually about emotions). These people also typically do not form close personal romantic bonds until later in life than most, if they form them at all. Examples of this are feminist Gloria Steinem, who married for the first time at age 60, and talk show host Oprah Winfrey. Winfrey (who did experience childhood rape and became a teenage mother), is in her 50s and has had a long-term relationship with partner Steadman Graham, but states traditional marriage is not something she wants in this lifetime.

Some other notable people with Venus in Aquarius include: Simone de Beauvoir, Umberto Eco, Carlos Castaneda, Erica Jong, Edward Albee, Ellen DeGeneres


Sun in Pisces
This annual occurrence brings a strong influence of emotions and sentimentality to life. Intuition is especially heightened and decisions are made that include consideration of feelings. Pisces is also a creative sign.

In terms of relationships, expect that your partner or you may be more aware of emotions than in recent times. Feelings will be taken into consideration and will be voiced in conversations. There is a desire to merge, to be at one, to be in synchronicity with the partner; conversely it hurts when it does not happen.

Double Dolphins in Electrified Water
So how will these two influences work together? The Double Dolphins will be swimming in the waves of electrified waves. You could find yourself with the urge to merge and just as you get close your partner shocks you with an electric bolt of detachment of aloofness that leaves you stunned and feeling alone. Or you could be the one who is unable to cope with the emotions in the relationship and you put up an icy wall of electricity that shocks the other person away from you. Maybe you even throw some lightning bolts out of fear (disguised as cool *rational* anger or being "too busy" to relate to/talk to the partner) if you get frightened enough of your or your partner's emotions.

The best possible scenario? That you and your partner both use the next three weeks until March 10 to articulate the emotional issues in your relationship, come to a compromise about any problems and learn to respect that there are times for emotions and times for rationality in an intimate relationship. The key is BALANCE.