Thursday, January 03, 2008

Free Astrology Lesson: Love Signs

The sign in which Mars and Venus is located in your chart indicates the way you express your passion, your sexual style, your expression of anger and your initiative in life (Mars); it also shows what you value, how you think about and naturally handle money and most of all, the way in which you express love and affection (Venus).

Remember, these are all potentials and can be affected by aspects to these planet-in-sign signatures, as well as current transits!




Mars Signs


Mars in Aries


Some like it HOT, HOT, HOT!!! The Roman god Mars and the Greek god Ares are associated with lust, passion, drive, with masculinity, courage, assertiveness, willpower, bloodthirsty behavior, and initiative, and anger. In astrology, Mars functions as the way in which you express your passion and drive, your feelings of sexual attraction, what and how you are sexually attracted to and how you pursue what you desire. Because Mars rules Aries, this is a powerful placement. Here is a person with a lot of drive, initiative, independence, high energy, courage and impulsiveness. However, this is not a strong indicator of stamina. Initial enthusiasm could ebb away if the object of desire resists for a very long time.

The challenge of winning what seems to be unattainable is a thrill for Mars in Aries, but a long standoff may make things seem less appealing. Starting new projects is a forte but finishing them is not. Therefore you should have people to whom things can be delegated so you can move onto the next big idea. You can lead a team but you are not a good team player/team member. If you are honest with yourself you will admit that you want things YOUR way and you will battle for what you want.

You ARE competitive in the bedroom and the boardroom. You are very likely to find it sexy to fight with your mate as part of lovemaking. This is the most courageous and enterprising Mars position. You have a HIGH and demanding sex drive and when you want sex you want it NOW. It does not take much to get you in the mood and your lover is expected to meet your needs from the start. Try to be patient!

Some notable Mars in Aries people include: Russell Crowe, David Letterman, Princess Ingrid Alexandra of Norway, Gloria Steinem, Tobey Maguire




Mars in Taurus


Except for when a red cape is being waved at it and it is being prodded and dared, a bull does not run. He takes his time, slowly and steadily getting to where he wants. He is so big that very few dare to get in his way or oppose him. He arrives at his destination and rest himself, enjoying some delicious food, or a good nap or some satisfying sex. That is Taurus the Bull. Taurus is ruled by Venus, the planet of love. Thus there is emotion, balanced by Taurean practicality and logic.

Unlike Mars in Aries, Mars in this sign is not about pushing aggressively wrestling you to the floor. Mars in Taurus is about the slow burn of love. Mars in Taurus wants to take a tour of the preparations of lovemaking – all the little luxuries that can be enjoyed as part of the process. Silky sheets, delicious wine, sumptuous food, heart-warming music, those things are all part of the lovemaking. After all these preliminaries, then you get right down to it and endurance is the key. With Mars in Taurus you are a steady and dependable lover.

Mars in Taurus also indicates that the things you value are the things you pursue with a quiet passion. You like the material and physical world – comfortable surroundings, a nice home, good food, expensive clothing, investing in the stock market, making money in general, saving money and increasing your portfolio. You choose a course of action and pursue it without wavering. People can be quite surprised at your determination. Patience is a strong suit.

You may not appear to be a sex bomb, but sexual satisfaction is high on your list of priorities. You are very sensual and sexual partner who approaches sex in a straightforward manner. Staging fights, playing games, acting out fantasies, rushing and fetishes are not your style. However you may want to try to be a little creative at times and vary your approach because sex at precisely 8 o’clock every Tuesday night after dinner is apt to get boring for your partner!

Some notable Mars in Taurus people include: Ashley Judd, Courteney Cox, Tom Cruise, Lucy Lawless, Madonna Louise Ciccone, Vanna White





Mars in Gemini


Do you want a lover with good hands? Wants spice and variety in your lovemaking? Do you enjoy experimentation? If so, you want someone with Mars in Gemini.

Gemini is ruled by Mercury, the Messenger god who flies from one place to another, thinks quickly, and moves at lightning speed. Gemini people use their hands a lot and in a love relationship it comes in, er, handy. Strong Gemini energy can make one VERY adept with hands and fingers – playing guitar, playing piano, golfing, and making intricate repairs. If you have Mars in Gemini you know how to caress your lover and in general touching, caressing, patting and holding if very important, but not only that - you like to be talked to in romance and sex. Talking is your foreplay style. Mentally your mind must be stimulated for your body to join in the festivities.

Mars in Gemini is not cut out for endurance sex because most of the energy is spent mentally, so try some tai-chi, mediation or yoga to calm the mind so the body can enjoy!

You are attracted to intelligent people who can captivate your mind. Talking about fantasies, acting them out, introducing surprises and reading erotica can bring you great pleasure with a lover. Mars produces mental assertiveness and mental energies are highest here. If you are not being mentally stimulated with word and variety you lose interest and may seem erratic because you start focusing on other things.

Professionally your passions, with Mars in Gemini, can lead you into being a reporter, journalist, teacher, public relations spokesperson or critic. You could find yourself changing job frequently. You like to be thought of as intelligent. Just be careful about becoming superficial – knowing a little about a lot of things. This also applies to your sexual relationships – when younger you may find yourself flitting from one “special” person to another as you lose interest quickly. Playing too many sexual games (fetishes, role-playing etc) may frighten off a partner (“you’re weird”) so you may need to ask yourself why you are having trouble being satisfied with a generally straight-forward sex life. Take pride in your flirting abilities to a degree but beware of using people sexually as it could cause you to get a bad reputation as a player or flake and you will find yourself alone. Having no one to talk to is a nightmare for a Gemini! Get to really KNOW your partner by asking in-depth questions and talking about yourself on an equally deep level. You will find yourself quite turned on mentally and physically!

Some notable people with Mars in Gemini include: Jimmy Page, Freddie Prinze Jr., Camilla Parker Bowles, Anna Kournikova, Sandra Bullock, Crown Prince Frederik of Denmark, Ludwig van Beethoven, David Duchovny, Eldrick (Tiger) Tont Woods




Mars in Cancer


Do you find the thought of creating a child to be sexy? Then you may have Mars in Cancer. In this placement, the God of War meets the Cosmic Mother and she is immensely turned on at the thought that their sexual union could result in the manifestation of a child.

Emotional attachment is vital with Mars in Cancer. If you have Mars in Cancer you are attracted to someone you can nurture and who will nurture you. The sensual and sexual world is a very sensitive place for you – you feel very vulnerable. Logic and practicality are not at all strong here. Mars in Cancer intuitively picks up the vibrations of the other person and wants to merge with them. You are attracted to people who want to be mothered and they are attracted to you because they instinctively know you will mother them!

A moody and emotional person, you are quite sexual and sensual person once your partner has gotten to know you. Crying during lovemaking is quite common, whether you are female or male. The assertiveness and aggression of Mars is a bit lost here – lust is there, but it is apt to be hidden. It will not get shown until it feels SAFE. Being defensive or overly cautious can be a problem. You must learn to loosen up a bit. Unless other aspects in your chart indicate it, this is NOT the placement of a person who likes to have confrontation as part of lovemaking. If your nerves get frazzled or you have a lot to worry about your interest in sex disappears. Your mind, nerves and stomach (watch out for ulcers and digestive problems) cannot take a lot of frenetic activity before sliding between the sheets. Mars in Cancer loves domestic tranquility and security.

In a work setting people may think they can take advantage of you because you are not very assertive, may vacillate and may take on other’s responsibilities. You are an independent person who has personal and professional ambitions but you do not share them with people. That way you can take your time and approach the object of your desire without giving away your plan. Heh heh. If you begin to feel put upon, your crabbiness and withdrawal will surprise people. In professional pursuits, love, and lust, you take the circuitous route.

Some notable people with Mars in Cancer include: Keanu Reeves, Donald Sutherland, Richard Gere, Anjelica Huston, Stephen King, Cheryl Ladd, Anne Morrow Lindbergh




Mars in Leo


Leo likes living AND loving LARGE!! If you have Mars in Leo, there is a strong natural pull to fine dining, flamboyant displays of affection, dramatic gestures and a love of being the center of attention, whether giving or receiving such a spotlight. Mars in Leo is no stranger to lust and the person with this placement wants to look good and get pats on the back while displaying love in all its grandest forms. Mars in Leo likes to be both generous and appreciated for the generosity. It will result in even more pleasure being given and received.

Don't muss the hair of a Leo woman while making love - unless you make her hair look like a sexy tousled lion's mane, LOL. Leo is a playful sign and enjoys the upbeat, optimistic side of love. Sometimes a bit of passionate anger can be mixed in there, but in general Mars in Leo wants aggressive passion and a heavy touch. Get in there and do the deed! The roars and purrs of pleasure coming from the bedroom may scare others but you'll have a good time.

Silk sheets in leopard or tiger prints will be very appealing. A glamorous, elaborate bedroom is a perfect Mars in Leo setting!

Try to remember to be patient with your partner and other people in general, even thought you want to plow ahead with great force and confidence!

Notable people with Mars in Leo include: Billy Crystal, Bette Midler, Hillary Rodham Clinton, Dominique Moceanu, Robert Redford, Kenny Rogers, Cher, Ilia Kulik, Prince Felix of Denmark, Harrison Ford, Goldie Hawn, and Michael Jordan

If you do not know what your Mars sign is, order a natal report.




Mars in Virgo


Love is an emotion and sex is not something that runs on the fuel of rationality, but Mars in Virgo will certainly try to shape some rules and regulations to make it work and work right!

Virgo is a sign known for the characteristics of being methodical, rigid, concerned with minutiae, good with organization and aiming for perfection. With this placement a person is very conscientious, but perhaps lacking in imagination and lightheartedness - something crucial to a good sexual relationship. While insisting that sex can only be done after the dishes and in a certain position is not sexy, it is sexy that you desire to get it right when it comes to pleasuring your partner.

Mars, the symbol of passion, is not very passionate in Virgo. Your sex drive may be strong, but your willingness to express it can be repressed. They may be critical of their partner, trying to contain their partner's sexual expression. If you have Mars in Virgo you may also attract a perfectionist, critical partner. Sometimes this leaks out in a bit of kinky behavior. Virgo men are famous for being rigid, puritanical and nitpicky when it comes to sexual display, but behind the scenes they can be, as one client described to me, "superfreaks". They may also have quite a fascination with buttocks.

It is important, if you have Mars in Virgo, to work on being tolerant and expressive. Show some emotion, as singer Joan Armatrading implored.

Mars in Virgo people tend to take on too much work, thus using a lot of energy that could go into some lusty sex, for work purposes instead. However they are earthy people, who are open to sexual experimentation. Hmmm. There's that kinky stuff again! Who said Virgo is not a sexy sign (think Sean Connery and Sophia Loren)?!

Some notable people with Mars in Virgo include: Sarah Jessica Parker, Matt Damon, Chelsea Clinton, Ben Affleck, Cameron Diaz, George W. Bush, Nick Carter, J. C. Chasez, Johnny Depp, Gloria Estefan, Elizabeth Hurley, Brooke Shields, Kevin Spacey, Britney Spears





Mars in Libra


If you have a legal case to fight be sure to get an attorney with Mars in Libra. Combining the power and bloodthirsty aggression of Mars with Libra’s ability to reason and desire to have fairness, you will most likely win.

Mars in Libra is passive-aggressive personified. Mars wants to take action and get things done, but Libra will mellow out the impulsive nature of Mars. Where mars in Aries jumps into the fray, Mars in Libra thinks about how the end goal can be achieved without having to get one’s hands dirty. In fact Mars in Libra is adept at getting others to do the dirty work, deal with the confrontations and handle the unpleasant task while procrastinating about making a decision. The Mars in Libra person can even look quite surprised if you challenge them regarding their role in a situation. “Who, me?” they will say, not wanting to seem aggressive, cutthroat, or unfair. With the most pleasant of words they seek compromise when they know they cannot win.

Sexually, Mars in Libra people are aggressive about pleasing their partners and being pleased in return (everything must be reciprocal in the world of Libra). They can be rather picky and fastidious, but they will literally charm the pants of you and make it worth your while!

Some notable people with Mars in Libra include: Robert Plant, William Jefferson Clinton, Angela Lansbury, Eminem, Sarah Ferguson, Brendan Frasier, Whitney Houston, Nicole Kidman, John Lennon, Heather Locklear, Prince William of Great Britain, Sinead O'Connor




Mars in Scorpio


Depth, intensity, power, control, privacy. These words are key to understanding how a person with Mars in Scorpio approaches relationships and sex. They may make up rules and regulations, and use sex as a weapon in order to gain they desire from the other person – absolute enthrallment. In their complex approached to sexuality and relationships they can be likely to want their lover to do anything and everything – including things that would make many walk away and close the door forever. This is after they make their lover wait for what may seem an endless period of time while they demonstrate their power and self-control by being unavailable and abstaining for long periods of time, giving in only when they feel their partner is deserving. It is not unusual for the partner of a Mars in Scorpio person to find they must beg for sex.

Some notable Mars in Scorpio people include: Billy Bragg, Mel Gibson, Jennifer Aniston, Prince Nicolai of Denmark, John Goodman, Shere Hite, Susan Sarandon, Howard Stern, Oprah Winfrey




Mars in Sagittarius


The phrase “anger management” comes to mind when Mars in Sagittarius surfaces. Between the spontaneous and combustible nature of the Centaur and the warrior stance of Mars, you could have a rather kinky and wild sexual ride with a Mars in Sagittarius person.

These people like their freedom, have little patience for getting into serious details and like to experiment with the outer edges of the sexual envelope. People with Mars in Sagittarius generally start things but do not finish them – and that can include relationships. They have an idealistic stance, and great vision, but they sabotage their dreams by putting their verbal foot in their mouth or taking actions that intimidate others. Many times they simply trash things and people and move onto the next “project. Of course environment plays a role here.

These folks love the outdoors, including sports that involve bloodletting – hunting for example. They enjoy being in the forest, like the mythical Pan. They have a blunt, direct, yet passionate approach in bed. Remember when Great Britain’s Prince Charles, while married to Princess Diana, was audio-taped while telling his married mistress Camilla Parker Bowles that he wished to be reincarnated as a tampon so that he might always be in her knickers? Prince Charles has natal Mars in Sagittarius. Want to try a new position? They are up for it – literally. They like playing games in bed, including roughhousing. The only things is, don’t think you are getting out of that bed without them getting their ultimate satisfaction! In or out of bed, if they feel you are infringing on their freedom, they will cut you down and turn you off in a split second. They may even run away, but they will always return, as Sagittarian energy is mutable.

Some notable people with Mars in Sagittarius include: Ellen DeGeneres, Steffi Graf, Dick Clark , Rene Zellweger, Avril Lavigne, Prince Charles, Meg Ryan, Christian Slater, Mark Twain




Mars in Capricorn


Private and powerful. This is Mars in Capricorn in general and when it comes to personal and sexual relationships. Here is where you see a person with a determined, yet subdued drive that slowly, steadily makes its way to its destination.

Those with Mars in Capricorn do not give away the details of their sex lives, but rest assured theit partner is never lacking. With a quiet confidence Capricorn always finishes what it starts – or what you start. So if you are not sure you want to make love tonight, do not begin the foreplay. The Mars in Capricorn person does not like sexual head games.

Someone who has Mars in Capricorn in the 2nd house of earned income, self-esteem and values typically achieves high financial goals although you may never know the extent of the wealth they have attained. They powerfully attain what they desire and they rarely feel the need to boast about their conquests.

Mars is the sign of the Warrior and Capricorn is cardinal (leader) energy so Mars in Capricorn natives are ambitious and prefer being on top of things – heh heh, literally. They are masters at self-restraint - and it shows in their sexuality, drive, career and expression of anger. As an Earth sign like Taurus and Virgo, Capricorn likes the pleasures of the flesh. Once the light is green they want to revel and roll in it, squeeze it tightly, immerse themselves deeply in it, and shake the earth with its orgasmic succulence. Like Chaka Khan sang, once you get started…oh its hard to stop…you just can’t stop.

And, lest, you think this is purely selfish, it is not. Mars in Capricorn people get immense pleasure from seeing their partner reach orgasm. A goal achieved is always rewarding when there is Capricorn energy involved. Mars in Capricorn people truly care about their partners (the energy of polar sign Cancer coming through!). They feel obligated to make sure both they and their partner have a good, satisfying time.

Some notable people with Mars in Capricorn: Walt Disney, Brad Pitt, Christina Aguilera, Benjamin Bratt Nicolas Cage, Tom Selleck, Jim Carrey, Ozzy Osbourne, Julia Roberts, Steven Spielberg, Ben Stiller




Mars in Aquarius


The telephone and the Internet are two inventions that have lifted sex to new heights for those with Sun, Venus or Mars in Aquarius. With either, you need not be in each other’s physical presence to have sex. Sex begins in the head with Mars in Aquarius people. Mars in Aquarius people enjoy this – because sex, potential sex or quasi-sex can take place with the mind. Fiery Mars in an Air sign indicates that talking, thinking and fantasizing about sex is a great turn-on. Mars in the sign of the Rebel indicates that these are men and women who stubbornly want to take the path less traveled when it comes to sexuality and relationships. It can also be dangerous because for the person with this placement, sex between a married and an unmarried person via telephone or computer is “safe” and not limited by any moral boundary.

Simply the idea of having sex is a thrill. Phone sex, cyber sex, cyber chat, and secret sexual activities not involving intercourse and that do not dissolve marriages, can be particularly seductive. The Mars in Aquarius person wants to spend time sharing fantasies – verbally, that is. They want to talk about sex, make innuendo about sex, and if the other person involved is on the geeky, oddball, offbeat or “different” side, all the better. They like the person who doesn’t quite fit the common mold – either is eccentric, looks different, dresses differently, or has an unusual career or lifestyle.

Insistent on getting their way, the Mars in Aquarius person will stand their ground and refuse to do anything other than what they want to do in a sexual relationship. They want to be in control. They will detach emotionally and in a clever and friendly manner dominate their partner.

Some notable people with Mars in Aquarius: Justin Timberlake, Zsa Zsa Gabor, Christopher Walken, Alec Baldwin






Mars in Pisces


Knowing what they wants and actually putting forth the energy to get it is challenging for the person with Mars in Pisces. This person is confusing to their lover because s/he floats all over the place getting to the goal – and that floating can take many stagnant and addictive forms: sex, drugs, alcohol, pathological lying or having sexual affairs.

The use of subtlety to achieve what s/he wants in a relationship is a forte of the person with Mars in Pisces. This person is not above head games. At the same time they can be especially susceptible to getting involved with those who use the same type of tactics.

If you want a partner who will do anything sexually, you can find it in a person with Mars in Pisces. Even if it is not exactly what they want, they will “serve” you by doing what you want sexually…with the covert end goal of eventually getting what they desire. Oh, can this person make you feel tremendously guilty if you later refuse them their wishes and they point out how they did this, that and THAT other thing for you. Like a chameleon, the Mars in Pisces person will change attitudes and actions to suit the moment, to elicit an answer, and to get what they want. Sometimes they are shy and romantic; at other times they are picayune and insistent on creating the perfect moment in the perfect relationship and they will stop at nothing to attain it. Carrying a lot of love and compassion within themselves, they may even take on a relationship where they are nursemaid to someone they perceive needs their ministrations for healing purposes. They can pay a price though, for this submerging of their selves. To deal with the pain of accommodating other’s wishes and disguising their aims, they may resort of abusing alcohol or drugs, lying, and/or having sexual affairs. By doing so they can figuratively wear rose-colored glasses and make the world look fine. However they can also drown in their oceanic fantasy land.

On the flip side, they actually can demonstrate so much love and care with you if they are your partner that you will feel truly merged and known, down to your soul. Encourage them to get into acting, singing, dancing, painting etc or some form of humanitarian or charity work and they will be better able to balance out the competitive fire of Mars and the mutable water of Pisces.

Some notable people with Mars in Pisces: Bono, Billy Crystal, Tom Hanks, Elton John, John Steinbeck, Rob Reiner, Vincent van Gogh, Sarah Michelle Geller, Moliere, Marilyn Monroe, Elizabeth Taylor, Annie Lennox




Venus Signs


Venus in Aries


Venus in Aries is the most impulsive of all the Venus signs! Sexual or romantic relationships are begun in the blink of an eye - but they can be finished just as quickly too.

Aries is a sign embodying naiveté, and idealism. This is the approach of the person with Venus in Aries. They are blunt, demand attention and want it without frills. Romancing someone to get sex is not exactly their cup of tea. It also means they can fail to see that someone wants to use them for their own means. They may think they are getting a relationship when they are getting a person who wants only a one night stand. With its impatient and independent nature, Venus in Aries can overlook the warning signs and leap into something that may last a night, two weeks or maybe a few months before fizzling out. Meanwhile the Venus in Aries person will have given their heart, their love, their all. It can be fun to be with a person with Venus in Aries if you are able to be very independent and take things as they come without an expectation from the start of having along-term or permanent relationship.

By the same measure, if you are seeking something purely physical and you both agree to those terms, such as the modern-day “friend with benefits” type of relationship, a person with Venus in Aries can be a perfect partner. Remember Libra is Aries polar sign and if this person chooses to let that charming and diplomatic energy surface, this could be a very good thing! If you have an intellectual rapport, it could potentially be a very satisfying “agreement” or relationship as it were: good conversation, perhaps a nice meal or relaxing cup of tea/coffee and some fiery sexual consummation.

Some notable Venus in Aries people include: Rene Zellweger, Jennifer Aniston, Sarah Michelle Gellar, Mariah Carey, George Clooney, Robert Downey Jr., Melissa Etheridge, Ashley Judd, Marilyn Monroe, and Sarah Jessica Parkers




Venus in Taurus


Venus rules Taurus and so a person with Venus in this sign feels very comfortable with relationships and all that accompanies. They love the flesh (Rubenesque women and stocky men), sex, luxurious and expensive clothing, good wine, gourmet food, soft pillows and silk sheets. They enjoy the pleasures of love. They immerse themselves in the enjoyment of it all.

The flipside to this is that you can end up in great debt, thus you will need to exercise excellent money management in order to afford your love style!

Venus in Taurus loves to touch and be touched. Partnership is of vital importance to you. You may want to "possess" you partner and must remember that you cannot own other human beings, even if they are your boyfriend, girlfriend, wife or husband. Your sex drive is very earthy and very high, thus you love all the sights, sounds, tastes and smells of sex.

Women with Venus in Taurus tend to hold traditional conservative views of relationships and want a good ROI - return on investment. I do this for you, so you do this for me. They won't bother with a relationship that appears from the start to not be leading to a secure marriage. They also tend not to marry a man who is unable to support them well financially. The men with Venus in Taurus generally prefer voluptuous woman with real breasts, stomach and buttocks Rather than those supplied by plastic surgery or implants). They also want someone who wants to follow their slow and steady lead.

Some notable people with Venus in Taurus: Princess Diana of Great Britain, Prince William of Great Britain, Steffi Graf, Crown Prince Frederik of Denmark, George Lucas, Johnny Depp






Venus in Gemini


A person with Venus in Gemini will keep you interested! They are charming, charismatic and are scintillating conversationalists. They can talk about anything! They love pleasure and fun. The downside of this is that they and aren't likely to stay with someone who can't keep them entertained for very long. Watch their hands - they use them a lot and are very adept!

Venus is the planet that represents what we value, what we love and what means love to us. It can be a person, place or thing.

When ensconced in the sign of Gemini the Twins, Venus can represent loving all three of those types of things and you may not feel like you in much of a relationship!

Venus in Gemini wants a relationship that is open-minded, intellectual, mentally stimulating and full of activity. There is also a tendency here to want to sample relationships, because in past lives this person has been in monogamous relationships or celibacy. Now she or he wants to break free - so this is not a life where sex comes with lots of rules (unless there are other more introverted aspects in the person's chart)!

Venus in Gemini likes social and romantic variety. Like Venus in Aquarius, this position indicates a person wants to be friends with lovers and everyone else. Talking endlessly, traveling and doing various activities is what love is all about with the placement. This is a Venus sign that expects lots of independence in a relationship. Values concerning love, marriage and romance may seem superficial.

Some notable people with Venus in Gemini include:





Venus in Cancer


Cancer is the most domestic sign of love. This is the Venus placement that enjoys making a home, decorating with art and fine furniture, playing beautiful music within its walls and creating or serving warm delicious family meals.

Venus in Cancer wants security. With this placement, a person gives their all to a partner, expecting love, affection and high quality love. Devotion is an unspoken requirement and is given in return. Venus in Cancer is highly emotional, very sensitive and cries a lot - although that is usually in secret.

If you have Venus in Cancer, you have deep desire to be so entwined that you can intuit each other's needs and desires, and don't even have to speak. That is because you carry the natural intuitive ability to do so! Affectionate and demonstrative, you enjoy being physically close - cuddling, holding hands and caressing with your partner. You also enjoy cooking for your partner and being maternal towards him/her. Children are an important facet of your life, as is taking care of your home. You view your family as your first priority and outside work is second place. Men with Mars in Cancer tend to look for a woman who is like their mother and who is devoted to him, home and family.

Some notable people with Venus in Cancer include: Danny Glover, Meryl Streep, Juliette Lewis, Kristi Yamaguchi, Robert Plant, Ben Affleck, Willem Dafoe, Camilla Parker Bowles, Cameron Diaz, Courteney Cox, Elizabeth Hurley, Anna Kournikova, Lenny Kravitz, Keanu Reeves, Martin Sheen, and Christian Slater





Venus in Leo


Leos love being loved. They inspire great passion and loyalty. Their friends are usually friends for life for they know their Leo IS the Queen or King. They are fiery, dramatic and full of new, exciting ideas in the bedroom. Just do NOT must her hair during lovemaking...nor in any way make her look or feel ridiculous about your passionate encounter. Her pride will be wounded and she will leave you quickly and as cold as ice, with her head held high as she walks out the door. If you are in public and heart or make fun of her she may put you through a dramatic vignette you will never, ever forget.

Venus in Leo uses drama, creativity, flair, and grand gestures to attract love - just as it is attracted to those who use those techniques. Because this is the sign of The Queen or The King, there must be a virtually royal effort put into courtship. Lack of money just won't do. Somehow, someway, the resources will be found to provide grand and memorable romantic times.

The Venus in Leo person is seeking to create and be in relationships that provide spontaneity, joy and mutual admiration. This is both healing and loving in their eyes and goes a long way to creating a den they will never want to leave.

Some notable people with Venus in Leo: Tobey Maguire, Chelsea Clinton, George W. Bush, Madonna Louise Ciccone, Tom Cruise, Prince Nicolai of Denmark, Whitney Houston, Nicole Kidman, George Bernard Shaw





Venus in Virgo


The person with Venus in Virgo can be challenging! They can either seem like they do not want anything to do with love, or be very focused on constant self-improvement in the relationship. Translation: too critical of not only themselves, but their partner.

Virgo is a sign that seeks the best in all things - which gets labeled as perfection. Their demands of themselves, other people and situations can seem or can be impossible to meet. They express love and affection for the people and things they value in an introverted manner. As introverted as it may be, Virgo wants to be in charge and will nitpick if things are not like they want in a relationship. Demanding the best of themselves, they also think it is appropriate to demand it of their partner. Often they simply are not sure WHY their partner loves them or wants them. They can make loving them a very cold experience.

When the Venus in Virgo person wants you to draw close, they will turn on their own special brand of charm that says life would be greatly improved if the two of you were a couple. They may be witty, articulate, creative, clean/fastidious and attentive to your needs.

But the shadow side of Venus in Virgo comes from the karmic fear of being stuck in a dead-end, intellectually oppressive, stunted relationship. Their past lives involved being trapped in a hopeless marriage that killed their spirit. Things were stagnant, conversations were non-existent, and growth was impossible. In this lifetime they fear getting married and sitting in front of the television set every night after dinner for decades. They would rather stay single. It may take a long time to get this person to the altar, if you can manage it at all!

If you do succeed, however, this is a person who will be willing to support you in what you need to do on your individual path and will expect the same from you.

Some notable Venus in Virgo people include: John Lennon, Lily Tomlin, John Coltrane, Prince Felix of Denmark, Jane Curtin, Pedro Almodvar





Venus in Libra


Oh! Love to love you baby! And love to love LOVE!!

Venus is in its heaven - it is in one of the two signs it rules (the other is Taurus) and here it wants all the hearts, flowers, lovesongs and words of love. Nothing less than the complete package is acceptable to a person with Venus in Libra.

Charming, cultured, diplomatic, romantic, talented and intellectual Venus in Libra quickly turns heads. But they get bored fast and are hard to hold. It's worth it to try to keep them entertained.

In past lives, a person with Venus in Libra had partners who were sexually and romantically crude and emotionally callous. Now this person wants peace, pleasure, nice words, pleasant experiences, and spiritual exchange with a loved one. These are creative, warm, and generally fair people who seek the same in a partner. Libra knows how to give what it wants to get what it wants, and so people with this placement tend to have no shortage of partners. Being in a relationship is of high priority to these folks and sometimes they may do anything to be in a relationships, even with someone they know they are not interested in, just so they can appear to be in a harmonious relationship.

The Venus in Libra man knows how to say all the right things. He knows how to use language to melt your heart, make you melt into his arms and cause you to think he is Don Juan, Casanova and Valentino all rolled into one package. His mind is always working, jumping from one subject to another. He enjoys looking and smelling good, so you will usually find him wearing his best clothes and a captivating men’s cologne. He will make you feel appreciated, loved and romanced. Men with Venus in Libra can sweep you right off your feet, charming you with a winning smile, and also by opening doors, pulling out chairs and consciously displaying all the chivalrous social graces. He will place his hand in the small of your back to guide you and take you hand to help you arise from your seat. He will ask you if you are having a nice time while he engages you in charming conversation. Watch as he touches your hand ever so lightly.

The Venus in Libra woman typically has a soft voice and gentle peal of laughter are not uncommon, coming from her. She welcomes flowers, and notices the little things you do to make her feel appreciated. Her mind is always active and she is thinking of one topic even as she is speaking of another one. She will be beautifully dressed and adorned with some form of red, brown, blue or green. There may be a slight edge to her as she challenges you on some subjects, but it is always wrapped in a light and gentle teasing. The only cautionary note with both men and women who have this sign is that you should know you are being offered some illusions of romance and that the bubble may burst later! But enjoy it while you can!

Some notable people with Venus in Libra include: Eminem , e.e. Cummings, Yo Yo Ma, Gloria Estefan, F. Scott Fitzgerald, Calista Flockhart, William Jefferson Clinton, Stephen King , Richard Gere, and D.H. Lawrence





Venus in Scorpio


Mysterious, exciting, sexual Scorpio loves intensely. People born under this sign are loyal and protective. They can also be jealous and secretive. The Scorpion is most compatible with someone he or she feels can be trusted completely. They are not too fond of parties and like you to stay at home. Women involved with a Scorpio male may find themselves without much of a social life after a few years with their Scorpio mate. But that will suit him just fine!

Scorpios must be aware of their shadow side. While they have the gift of being able to achieve deep psychological transformation, it is not unusual for a Scorpio to come to that point through some DEEPLY serious drug and/or alcohol use/abuse or sexual experimentation. They may do these things to an extent that would probably kill or seriously maim the average person. Scorpios must ask themselves if they are being suspicious of others because they fear what is in the deepest, most hidden parts of their own soul. Scorpio is ruled by the planet Pluto. Pluto reigns over death, sexuality, rebirth, and transformation.

The Scorpio archetypes are The Snake, The Sorcerer, The Grey Lizard, The Phoenix, and The Eagle. Many are The Phoenix and fly into the Sun or close to it, crash, burn and amazingly enough come out the other side, sane, sober, substance-free and wise. Some go on to be great teachers of society and are viewed as very wise and noble.

A person with Venus in Scorpio is yearning to form relationships which embody deep, radical honesty and a "knowing" of the partner that is beyond judgment and words. Venus in Scorpio symbolizes a need to have a transforming and cathartic relationship where no matter what is said, no matter what is revealed, the other partner will not leave. The relationship must be safe enough to solidly embrace both partners no matter how dark and terrifying the journey down the rabbit hole becomes. In this atmosphere the person with Venus in Scorpio can overcome the inherent sense of distrust she/he has deep in their soul from a previous lifetime. With this type of relationship, the Venus in Scorpio person can be their authentic selves and emerge spiritually.

Some Venus in Scorpio people: Bruce Springsteen, Tina Turner, Salvador Dali, Hillary Rodham Clinton, Agatha Christie, John Cleese





Venus in Sagittarius


Adventurous, impulsive and independent Sagittarius loves getting to know new people, and starting new ventures, such as relationships. They may not last, but they can be fun initially in the eyes of The Centaur. Love takes on a fiery, spontaneous tone! You may never know where and when they are taking you for date – but it will be fun!

They play the field but can be loyal once they find the right person. This is the sign that is willing to do spontaneous activities or spend hours fiercely debating a subject and think of it as a great date.

The person with Venus in Sagittarius is seeking to form relationships that are based on the basic pure pagan delight (think Pan) and faith of love. They want a relationship to open their world and broaden their perspectives. In past lives they have experience sexual oppression and restraint, stagnancy and boring routine.

If you can inject joy, spontaneity, individuality and sexual freedom into your relationship the person with Venus in Sagittarius will be greatly attracted.

Some notable Venus in Sagittarius people include: Joan Baez, Jimi Hendrix, Ruth Gordon, Jane Fonda, Derek Jacobi, Robert Duvall





Venus in Capricorn


Some like love with lots of flash, drama and pizzazz! But if what your truly desire is a steady, committed relationship that leaves no doubt about where you stand, you want a person with Venus in Capricorn. Why? Because this is a person who is ready for a mature, stable, committed relationship and will not settle for anything less. Capricorn likes to take charge (it is a cardinal sign), so such a person is not afraid to seek a committed relationship. One night stands and flimsy emotional games are not what attracts this person.

Capricorn the Sea Goat is a sign that values commitment, stability, age and sagaciousness - the wisdom that comes with age. Thus, a Capricorn will not rush into a commitment but once a commitment is made they will take a long time thinking things through and trying to wait out the bad times before ending the connection.

In past lives the person with Venus in Capricorn was paired with immature people, possibly abandoned, the victim of emotional games, and suffered failed relationships. This lifetime is therefore about making much different choices.

They would rather let a potential relationship pass them by than make a choice that will be temporary and unfulfilling. Venus in Capricorn folks can appear to be very commanding and are the people that others seek for wise answers: mature wise elders, authoritarian, self-contained, and very focused. They seek these attributes in a love partner.

Some notable people with Venus in Capricorn include: Toni Morrison, Brad Pitt, Zsa Zsa Gabor, Robert Bly, Anthony Hopkins






Venus in Aquarius


Independence, lots of space, freedom, individuality and separateness. These are what the person with Venus in Aquarius seeks in a relationship. Situations that allow for these characteristics are the ones they value most.

Venus in Aquarius indicates that in a prior lifetime the person experienced some sort of sexual abuse or misuse, most likely forcibly locked into sexual unions against their free will. This was very traumatic. Now in this lifetime, there may still be some trauma around sexual issues (for example the person may experience rape or molestation at an early age). They may have trouble forming pleasurable sexual relationships as an adult.

Aquarius is a sign that seeks freedom, independence and is very progressive in its approach to life. For Venus in Aquarius people there is a need to seek attention for being unique - being The Rebel. Aquarius likes to shake up the mix! They like to be known for speaking existential "truths". They can also be rather voyeuristic about other's sexual and romantic lives, wanting to openly discuss the details of the other person's life because it is a "radical" approach to such an intimate issue (and becuase talking about sex and relationships covertly excites them by stimulating their mind)....but detaching and hiding when it comes to revealing their own private sexual and romantic details!

A relationship with a person who has Venus in Aquarius may not feel like much of a relationship at all. These people also typically do not form close personal romantic bonds until late in life, if at all. Examples of this are feminist Gloria Steinem, who married for the first time at age 60, and talk show host Oprah Winfrey. Winfrey (who did experience childhood rape and became a teenage mother), is in her 50s and has had a long-term relationship with partner Steadman Graham, but states traditional marriage is not something she wants in this lifetime.

Some notable people with Venus in Aquarius include: Gloria Steinem, Oprah Winfrey, Simone de Beauvoir, Umberto Eco, Carlos Castaneda, Erica Jong, Edward Albee, Ellen DeGeneres





Venus in Pisces


Love and romance for someone with Venus in Pisces is an oceanic flood of emotions. Dreams and fantasies are Piscean territory. People with Venus in this sign wash back and forth between their fantasies and the reality of human relationships. They want a knight in shining armor on a white horse or a princess walking barefoot through the grass. They are willing to sacrifice themselves and dissolve all boundaries between themselves and the one they love. Love can be all-consuming.

Venus in Pisces people are moody, sensitive, tender-hearted, charming, playful and creative. Flirting is a major strength. Bring out the poetry and love songs and they will feel at home. The man with Venus in Pisces can be like John Travolta, going out of his way to shower his wife or girlfriend with romantic settings, flowers and gifts.

They also love unconditionally and that can be a good or bad thing. They may unconditionally accept someone with a Neptunian problem - alcoholism, drug addiction, gambling, pathological prevarication or sexual obsession.

At the same time, because of their sensitive nature, these folks may have a hard time committing because they are emotionally so sensitive. This sensitivity may also mean that they themselves have some of the Neptunian habits that they may be accept in those they love.

Some notable people with Venus in Pisces include: Drew Barrymore, Nick Carter, George Harrison, Lucy Lawless, Moliere, Michelle Pfeiffer, Tom Selleck, Princess Ingrid Alexandra of Norway, John Travolta, and Vincent Van Gogh





HOMEWORK: Study each of the 12 Venus and Mars signs and name three key characteristics for each one.

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